Chasing the Midnight Moon
It is 2:00am DG is just back from a 2 mile walk. It was a warm and sultry day she could not muster courage to walk to the gym in the hot sun so she settled for a late evening walk. Sundown was 9:30pm so she pulled a summer dress for a leisurely power walk but could not resist temptation to ping a young friend before she stepped out. A quick ping became two hour exchange and then it was another friend and it was almost half past midnight. Twice she thought of dropping the idea but the big bright moon dangling in her window tempted her to step out at 1am. She walked a 15 minute a mile and sat by the river just watching few solitary souls (couples) strolling and few cyclists.
While she was walking back home it dawned on her she was only unaccompanied woman at 2am walking by the river. Was it a foolish walk alone at this ungodly hour? Was it risky, was she prepared for any kind of emergency; yes she had her phone on her person besides the house keys? This is not the first time she has taken a walk or biked so late on the river. What does she think? Is she immune to risks or she doesn’t even give a thought to her safety? May be she never felt unsafe when she is in her own company and in sync with the universe?
Then another thought came to her mind, was it possible to go for such a walk if she were to be in a relationship, marriage or just be even with her natal family? If all these years DG has managed to stay safe and do her thing will she accept someone reasoning with her about her safety and their responsibility towards her or their concern? When living in company why it matters to other person(s) when one does their thing, “me time” after they are done the “we time.” Is such probing legitimate and warranted just because you live under the same roof?
How will DG react if her hypothetical partner took such a leisurely walk? Will she tag along or let them go by themselves. Some may suggest if she had a partner she’ll not need to take a lone stroll but what if she still wanted to? If she could stay safe all these years should she just give up her joy of moonlit walks to assuage her recent partner’s real or imaginary fears?
What does it mean to be in a relationship familial or conjugal? What is acceptable suggestion and what is infantilizing? Where do you draw a line on negotiable suggestions and non negotiable?
Readers are encouraged to contribute their take on DG’s everyday observations. She is hopeful she’ll learn a thing or two.