About This Blog


 

This work is rooted in the values of collective survival, healing one soul one day at a time.

Mission

Recognize together we can change our lives

 

Refuse to be part of any discriminatory behaviors and politics

 

Resist stereotypes to build  positive experiences

GOAL

To unite individuals, communities and resources to build healthy and happy communities, foster friendships and support sustainable life styles.

Disclaimer

This blog is one person’s reclamation journey. Her friends who share similar life stories appear in the narratives when ever they grant permission. Readers are responsible for using inormation at their own risk.

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Desi Girl retains the copy right to all the material on this blog if otherwise stated. Comments belong to comment writers. Please contact individual comment writers to use quote their comments.

You may not copy any material without permission.

Don’t copy my story create your own unique story. :)

Peace,

Desi Girl

15 Responses to “About This Blog”

  1. madhmama November 29, 2013 at p11 #

    Just wanted to let you know your blog is one of my faves!
    http://madh-mama.blogspot.ca/2013/11/my-first-blog-nominationaward.html

    @madhmama,
    Thank you, you are very kind.
    Please share this message of hope with anyone who may benefit.
    Peace,
    Desi Girl

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  2. Haresh Patel July 4, 2012 at p07 #

    Hi DG,

    They say there are things which cannot be measured by any parameters. Your pieces of advice are some of them :-)

    I am amazed at the level of maturity your posts show. I’m glad to see how your posts – and your pieces of advice/counselling – help break complex/difficult-looking problems into smaller bits that can be acknowledged and worked upon.

    When I first emailed you, I didn’t know that your advice would prove to be so helpful. It’s your ability to read problems, to analyze root-causes of problems, to understand psychology and to generate trust that make your counselling so effective.

    I am glad that I came across with someone so understanding and sensitive yet so disciplined. I never hesitated in sharing with you all the issues that I had been dealing with.

    Our exchanges of mails and your personalized advice were all that changed everything. You helped me realize what the real problems were. You helped me realize how the problems were actually different than those I had thought (or rather, imagined). You showed how my approach in dealing with my problems was more likely to do more harm than good as you could analyze the real simple causes of an apparent complex set of problems.

    I was trying, though not hard enough, to come out of the mess I was in. But, after your counselling, I realized that all my efforts weren’t in the direction I should. I needed to change my perspective of looking at things, at issues, at people, and above all, at myself.

    It wasn’t that no one had ever suggested me any steps. But, it was your level of expertise in counselling and my belief in the same which ensured that I tried to follow your suggestions. I’m glad that I’ve been able to solved issues that I’d been dealing with since long. I’m glad that I know myself better now.

    I’ve absolutely loved all the posts of yours that I’ve read and I now know that it’s not impossible to come out of mental/psychological problems that we sometimes find to hard to come out of. If you start understanding the problems, realizing them, accepting them and sincerely try to come out of the same, you’ll be amazed to see how fast you can recover.

    Thanks DG for being there. I’m happy that I came in touch with you. I know what your counselling meant to me. I’ll always be obliged to you for the same :-)

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  3. sarika May 22, 2012 at p05 #

    Hi
    How are u .i have been reading your posts.I appreciate your thoughts and your brains which are definitely on the best track.Ofcourse people who have lost it will fear to read your blogs….
    I was a bit worried for you after reading what you are going thru and great courage you have shown to write about your self finally.How are u now?

    Sarika

    @Sarika,

    Welcome to GGTS, a safe space.

    …people who have lost it will fear to read your blogs….

    Why?

    Thanks for asking DG is doing much better, it is a long road to practice restrain in attachments to people, places and things… The consolation is to know DG is not the first and she won’t be the last, many before her have been there and many after will go through their own trails…

    Please share this message of hope with anyone who may benefit.
    Peace,
    Desi Girl

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  4. bunkababz June 14, 2011 at p06 #

    Love the blog ! Please do check us out !
    http://bunkababz.wordpress.com/
    Dearestdesi.tumblr.com

    @bunkababz,
    Welcome to GGTS, a safe space.
    Sure, will visit your blog at leisure.
    Please share this message with anyone who may benefit.
    Peace,
    Desi Girl

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  5. Sushant December 22, 2010 at p12 #

    Hi there,

    Since there’s no direct email address to contact you, I had to communicate with you via your comment section. Hope you don’t find it weired :)

    Hope you’re doing well.

    My name is Sushant and I am the owner of Bogus Blogging. I came to know about your blog from IndiBlogger community.
    You can view my public profile on IndiBlogger here http://www.indiblogger.in/blogger/30298/

    I’m basically an Internet Entrepreneur and a casual amateurish blogger.

    The purpose of this email is to explain you a blogging technique which will help both of us drive traffic to our respective blog with mutual co-operation.

    Here’s what my ideas are:
    Currently, I’m working on a blogging technique known as Social Blogging which involves a group of similar bloggers working in tandem to promote their respective blogs on Social Web i.e Twitter and Facebook. Whilst conventional blogging requires a blogger to wait until eternity to drive traffic and promote their blogs across their potential audience, Social Blogging helps them to achieve their targeted traffic in a relatively easier fashion.

    I’d like to share more on this. But, first I’d like to know if you’re ready promote your blog socially to get more traffic.

    Kindly, let me know your thoughts,

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  6. aparna December 17, 2010 at p12 #

    Dear Desigirl,
    I’ve been reading all your posts with great interest and also following your advice over at many posts on IHM’s blog. You are one courageous AND empathetic woman – and one doesn’t always find both these together. Given your interest in women’s issues and supporting women, I would appreciate it so much if you could have a look at this contest – http://www.womensweb.in/item/the-great-adjustment-story.html – on the expectations from women to “adjust”. Hope you can participate and/or mention it on your blog for other interested readers.

    @aparna,
    Welcome to GGTS, a safe space.
    Desi Girl is encouraged to learn she could help. She will definitely check that link.

    Please share this message of hope with anyone who may benefit.
    Peace,
    Desi Girl

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  7. Harassed Sister in Law September 9, 2010 at p09 #

    Hello

    I have been reading your blog and I must say it is very healing and helpful. However most of your blog talks about bad in laws. What about bad daughter in laws…….

    My brother had an arranged marriage 3 years ago..the girl turned out to be completely different than what we expected…the picture her family painted before marriage turned to be the opposite after marriage. My family is detroyed and our realtionship with my brother is in shambles…..

    I feel guilty for leaving my parents alone and unhappy because my brother has become distant..don’t know what to do….

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    • girlsguidetosurvival September 9, 2010 at p09 #

      Dear Harassed SIL,

      Welcome to GGTS, a safe space.
      Desi Girl is glad you find healing in this safe space. She makes a conscious effort to present a factual picture of desi relationships and the root cause that is systemic than individual. Here are few posts that mention about indivudual responsibility of each person in the familial relationship and reasons for their contrary behavior.

      Desi Son: Obligated to Take Care of Mother
      https://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com/2010/02/

      Desi Mothers-in-law
      https://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com/2009/12/07/desi-mothers-in-law/

      Desi Girl is sad to know one ignorant wife is hell bent on destroying not only the relationship but happiness too. Always remember unhappy people make people unhappy. Her unhappiness is rooted in her insecure upbringing and low self esteem (it is like tiny porcupine raises her thorns to appear big). There is evident lack of boundaries in this relationship your brother is not able to communicate what he needs in this relationship. Respect my parents, visit them etc. are very vague expectations. He should mark his needs clearly and has to give equal importance to his wife’s needs such as – I want us to visit my parents on X holiday and we will visit your folks on X holiday. I want to call my parents on weekends. I want to invite them on X occassion and we’ll invite your folks too or what ever. Working on his relationship with his wife will help. You and your parents may feel isolated during this time but that is the only way through it for now…

      Desi Girl would suggest the couple seek couple’s counselling. If one of the partner refuses then at least the willing partner should go ahead for their own peace. You don’t need to be guilty, please support your brother and let him know you love him and understand that he is going through some hard times in his relatively new marriage. The state of his marriage should not change your relationship. He is not only hurt but is also feeling guilty and doesn’t know what to do so he is keeping aloof. This is how abuse works, isolating the victim.

      Arranged or love marriages for this reason Desi Girl says couple’s and families should work on knowing each other instead of spending time and money in pomp and show. You and your parents can seek few sessions of counseling too as it will help you guys understand how to help your brother. It is a smart thing to do than being ashamed of.

      If you wish you could disclose your location and together we can find some resources for you.

      Please share this message of hope with anyone who may benefit.

      Sending you peace and hope.
      Desi Girl

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  8. Nocturnal Bird June 23, 2010 at p06 #

    I got ur refernce thru ur comment in http://www.allifeel.wordpress.com.
    Your articles are just great and mind-blowing. GGTS – indeed an asylum for those who face the embarrassing questions relating to Relationships,

    Kudos to you.

    Nocturnal Bird
    http://www.guruthinks.wordpress.com

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    • girlsguidetosurvival June 23, 2010 at p06 #

      NB<

      Welcome to GGTS, a safe space.

      Thanks for showing confidence in GGTS. Yes, people do post questions and questions on taboo topics are always welcome. If Desi girl cannot answer something then she'll find the experts to answer it for the readers.

      Please share this message of with anyone who may benefit.

      Peace,

      Desi Girl

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  9. A.Hari June 23, 2010 at p06 #

    Really Great Blog. Thanks for your hard work. It is absolutely essential to increase awareness among women.

    Pl read this inspiring story of a physically challenged woman in my blog ‘Inspire Minds’,

    http://changeminds.wordpress.com/2010/04/11/if-i-can-do-it-so-can-others-like-me-inspiring-life-story/

    A.Hari

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    • girlsguidetosurvival June 23, 2010 at p06 #

      Hari,

      welcome to GGTS, a safe space.

      Thanks for your support and encouragement. Please share this message of with anyone who may benefit.

      Thanks for sharing that wonderful story about a very courageous woman. Life never stops amazing me.

      Peace,

      Desi Girl

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      • ranveer December 1, 2012 at p12 #

        It’s matter of time before I leave to heavenly abode..Can you please reach me on ranveer.veer@gmail.com!!

        @ranveer,

        Welcome to GGTS, a safe space.
        Do you think there is a heaven and a heavenly abode?
        What is your plan? What do you intend to do and how it will solve the problem you are facing?
        Please write in clear words what kind of help you are looking forward.
        It is not possible for DG to reach out to you on your email she is traveling. You have to write to her.

        Stay strong and remember nothing lasts for ever… this too shall pass.
        Peace,
        Desi Girl

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      • ranveer December 2, 2012 at p12 #

        Where can I write to you DG?

        You can leave a comment here or find DG’s email in of the comments on different pages and posts. Please be assured your personal information will be strictly confidential with exception to you being danger to your self or another living being.
        Disclose only as much you want to read on a public forum.
        DG

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  10. anna w December 18, 2009 at p12 #

    i’m amazed – learning much and understanding more about the world i live in…still reading…

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