What has class got to do with Domestic Violence

9 Apr

What has class got to do with Domestic Violence

04/09/2012

 

This question was thrown at DG once again by some one rolling in their middle class privilege and DG is tired of typing same answers over and over again. She is settling this issue for once and all. Long time back @IHM posed a question “Is it possible to solve a problem without treating the cause?” Many of us made our views known. As usual DG posted mile long comments in response to some reader of her blog. DG had to and fro commenting marathon with one comment writer in particular and she asked What has class got to do with it. You can check all  the comments between her and DG here. DG is easier to locate just look for bright gazania as her gravatar in front of the comment.

 

@Desi Girl and IHM :

“Is it not a time we start asking men to share their of childcare and house keeping. How long are we women planning to ride on the backs of less previleged women”

You have a point there regarding the maid. But, I was being sarcastic. Its highly impossible to get a free of cost and hassle free maid! Maybe robots might serve that purpose in future, with just the initial buying and maintenance cost. :)

So your solution is men sitting at home and taking care of the kids! For the life of me , I don’t know how a set of parents, however helping hubby would be, can raise a child and work at the same time without outside help. Creche and nursery you mean? Honestly, I don’t know a solution to this.

Read ur post on confused girls. I am sure every guy too has a different story to tell, nobody ever has a perfect childhood or teenage. The parents mentality then was, especially a father’s, that the son has to at some point earn a living for his new family. So arm him with everything they can. Daughters now are given oppurtunity to basic education, but how many will send their girls to far away places for further education or employment, even if they can afford it? The mentality has to change, like someone said, even if the girl is raped or not a virgin, she should be treated as a normal person.

In peace too :)
Jyothi.

 

Following is the comment she made in response to this reader’s 3rd and last comment that liberally used emoticons to make light of a very serious issue. Wish they had rules on how to use smileys and lol.

 

Jyothi,

I am sorry doing this on another person’s blog. I guess you need to do some homework before you make flat statements. I guess we all are guilty of that. At times we think being Indian we qualify to make statements about India that are not even factual or at other times we assume we are expected to know every thing Indian and about India just because we are Indians. So is the case of women and their problems. We are women so we ought to know every thing under the sun that ails women. But is more than what is visible to eye.

Jyothi: why the violence occurs?

DG: Because a person or a group of people assume they have a legitimate right or are entitled to and have power supported by law or culture to control the actions of another person or group. Be it upper castes perpetrating violence against Dalits on the pretext of fetching water from the community well or men beating their spouses for they did not do exactly what they wanted them to. Think would a man beat his subordinate at work because he did not meet the project deadline or follow the instruction.

A man beats his spouse because he knows he can get away with it without any penalties rather the system/culture will support him. Remember, THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR VIOLENCE.

A man/men make cat call at women or rape women because
1). they think women are like objects and they can do what ever they want,
2). know they can get away with it because culture will stigmatize the woman if she reports it and
3). the law will support him as it will ask what was woman doing at that hour of time, has she slept with other men in the past or what ever else…

Now about intimate violence against women, it is also called domestic violence because it occurs within the confines of homes, an assumed to be a safe space. Any violence is a learned behavior all genders are capable of committing it. More men abuse other men (refer general crime stats in any country) and also a greater number of women (through intimate partner violence) and some women also abuse both men (fewer in number than men abusing women) and other women (refer desi households).

Jyothi: Nothing short of a revolution will change the male mentality!

DG: Totally agree with you. Nanak, Jesus, Gandhi, Buddha all failed to generate compassion in the heart of patriarchal system for women and under privileged people only you dreaming of a revolution will definitely do it (pun intended and no apologies)

REVOLUTION BEGINS WITH ME. Start confronting your own biases. I have problems with obesity (I constantly struggle with weight but at times I still feel fat people are slaves to their emotions so they over eat or they are just lazy where as the fact his some people have genetic disposition for fat or are dealing with some health issue that makes them fat). Challenge the male preferential treatment and rituals in your family and circle of friends. If a man cracks a mother-in-law or bad woman joke snub him at the same time. Initiate a discussion what prompted him to say such a bad joke. Confront anyone who uses MF, SF or what ever abusive and cuss words they are using? Ask the why not BF, FF??

Jyothi: Middle class privilege? Where does class play a role here? The situation of women is the same in every strata of society.

DG: This is your middle class privilege speaking. How can you and the domestic help you employ have same issues. Some of your issues could be similar but never same. Like wise a manager and peon cannot have same issues but many similar issues like being late to work. The boss was late due to high traffic or his car broke where is a peon is late because the bus was too full and he/she could not board it or the bus just did not show up. But people are worried about the education of their kids.

You wake up every morning. Jump in the bath for a quick shower the running water in the tap refreshes you. You dry your hair with a hair dryer because you have electricity if there is a power outage then you have a inverter or generator. You dress up in a crisp saree, salwar kameez or business suit that may be you did not iron your self. You have breakfast at the table that is made on LPG stove. Then you pick car or scooter keys and zoom out of the door.

During all this you also got your kids dressed for school packed their lunches and shoved them into school bus or drove them to school. And your male spouse just read the newspaper or may be helped you but not as much you wanted. Or he still has a hangover from last night and when on high he said some thing mean to you or even hit you.

Now about the domestic help you employ or the female construction worker who constructed the building where you sat and typed this comment.

She wakes up before the sun rises because she has to find some privacy some where on the railway track to relieve herself. Then to clean herself and have some drinking water for the family she has to wait in line at the community tap or walk few miles to fetch some water on her head. The she has to feed herself and her kids she either depends on kerosene stove or fuel wood that she has to find in the concrete jungle. It will definitely take more time for her to prepare a meal than it took you. You may say you have seen many slums have LPG stoves, refrigerators and TVs. So?? Would you like to live there?? :) Back to the chronology of events if she is domestic help she has to reach work before memsahiba leaves. If she is a construction worker then she has to be even earlier because the contractor may not give her a day labor or someone who just came from village will grab her job. She still has work to do at home, clean and get her kids ready to go to school (if they even go)If they are very young a construction worker will put them in the on site crèche (not all places have crèches)that we middle class people operate for their benefit and pat our backs. If she is a domestic help her employer will not like her to bring her kids to work so who will mind them may be her minor daughter who is little older than her siblings. She’ll do the chores and may be go to the anaganwadi or even the afternoon school. where she’ll fall asleep because she is tired and has had not enough sleep and the teacher will say she is good for nothing. She’ll flunk and the school will chuck her out. Here goes her chances of bright future an education will bring now she is all good to fill her mother’s shoes as a domestic help when she retires. Think, will this ever happen to your daughter? will you let this happen to her?? :)

Also, remember her husband is drunk, shares no chores or parenting responsibilities rather shouts, yells and hits her. Here you and she are on the same page. So what has class to do with it??

If she were from your class she won’t be dealing with all the things I enumerated above and also the spousal abuse.

Yes, children are affected in both the classes because men are not sharing their share of parenting duties and women are tired and they can do only as much.

I could not find anything Indian context appropriate other than this.

Jyothi: Where I live, and I am sure in India too, most companies don’t work in shifts. Not all can work at Call Centers! Children will definitely be affected either way!

DG: Yes, you are right. No shift work for most middle class Indians. There were no childcare options and maternity leave privileges in India but women raised voice and got it implemented. Start talking to your friends facing similar situation. Unite talk to your employers. Under the UN and ILO Convention they are bound by law if they are ISO 500 companies. Even the smaller ones with 25 or more employer have to follow some laws. But it is too much work besides coming to 9 to 5 job and taking care of house hold so you or I will not do it. We’ll wait for women laborer’s to go on strike and fight for our rights (that is thehistory of International Women’s Day).

Jyothi: I don’t think any woman (or man), educated or not educated, will ever look down upon a rape victim. But moral less girls (or guys for that matter), it’s a different thing all together.

DG: That is why educated people have been debating on internet in English how characterless was Nirupama for getting pregnant.

http://indianhomemaker.wordpress.com/2010/05/07/no-second-chances-for-an-indian-daughter/

Jyothi: I would love the revolution to empower woman (or man) to be able to make their own choices, but not to adopt western animal culture.

DG: The internet you used to present your views here came from west. The printing press that contributed to India’s independence was a product of west. So what is this western animal culture?? West gave us the idea about maternity leaves for working women, women representation in the leadership positions and education on and on… So what is this animal culture?? :) Rapes, as if they never happened in India before MTV. Yeh, sure we forced the rapist to marry the raped and declared it Rakshesa Vivah. Great. (I will not elaborate on this please do a google search.) What happened during the 1947 roits, Godra roits were they west influenced?? What happened to all those women?? So many of them committed suicides because of stigma and they way there are taught a once raped a woman life is not worth living.

Jyothi: But moral less girls (or guys for that matter), it’s a different thing all together.

DG: What is moral?? What was moral 60 years ago is all upside down today. A Hindu man deserting his wife to beget a son in order to secure a place in heaven is moral. Now after 1956 Marriage Act his place in heaven has been curtailed as he can’t dump her on this pretext. Teens having sex is a moral issue but child marriage and teen wives having kids is ok?? Is the bond of marriage cure and cover all?? Bigamy is a problem but man visiting sex workers or raping a domestic help is ok because it is not visible to all. What is hidden is not a problem until it is exposed. Lets shove the dirt under the carpet.

So morally a prostitute cannot be raped because that is her work. But doesn’t she have a right to say NO?

Jyothi: I don’t agree with the fact that woman should work out off home to be part of this revolution for woman’s empowerment.

DG: That is the whole point of this exercise. Women’s domestic work should be respected. It should be a woman’s choice if she wants to stay at home and raise kids or should go to work outside the home. If a woman is poor she has to work to feed her kids then it is not a choice it is poverty directing her actions. You and I can have that privilege but not a very large majority of Indian women. UmaS had a choice how many women will have that option??

The whole idea is to treat women as Humans and supporting them in their parenting roles. Women do not get pregnant out of vacuum. Men are responsible for making babies so they should be shouldering the parenting duties. They don’t because we haven’t made that demand strongly rather we have employed other less privileged women to do father or husband’s job minus coitus.

I guess this is done here if you have any questions please leave a comment at:

https://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com/

IHM,
Apologies for this on going discourse with one person, now on I am taking this discussion to my blog.

Peace,

DG

 

Holy Holy it took DG 45 minutes just to cut past and insert links in this post. Good old days, when she had the patience to type mile long responses.

Any reader who has any question about dealing with in-laws please read the comments all your doubts and queries are addressed there. If you still have personal questions or need specific help you can contact her on gmail (to find the email read the comments carefully she has disclosed her contact number of times in comments to different posts).

 

 

 

 

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18 Responses to “What has class got to do with Domestic Violence”

  1. pallavi October 12, 2012 at p10 #

    Desi girl, this is urgent. please mail me. I’m a mum of two and standing on the brink.

    @pallavi,

    Welcome to GGTS, a safe space.
    DG is glad that you find comfort in asking her to email you but you could have written to her in the comment and her email id is given in numerous comments in different posts.
    Hope you are safe, she is sending you an email if you have left an actual email id.

    Please stay strong and take some deep breaths. Just know where you are at this moment did not happen over night so it will take time to get better until then you have to hang in there.

    Please share this message of hope with anyone who may benefit.
    Peace,
    Desi Girl

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  2. lady May 29, 2012 at p05 #

    Please make email option enabled for your posts, would like to send it to friends.

    @lady,
    Welcome to GGTS, a safe space.
    By now you must have known DG is pretty tech challenged. Please teach her how to email enable individual posts. She knows her blog can be subscribed through emails but posts she does not know how.

    Thanks for wanting to share this message of hope with those it may benefit.
    Peace,
    Desi Girl

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  3. Crimson Flame May 19, 2012 at p05 #

    Its interesting how things happen in this world.
    While going through a complicated chain of linked profiles on facebook, I landed up on yours…and then this blog. Reading the first few lines gave me a deja-vu for the writing style seemed familiar. After racking my brain cells for quite some time, I finally figured out that I’d been to this blog before. And then I remembered…

    http://blogs.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/O-zone/entry/ever-had-a-mind-affair?cp=2#comments
    (search for your name and then mine)

    And the other day, I was discussing with someone that just as one has signatures in real life – so when it comes to words, the writing style of a person also forms one of his signatures. One just needs to to be on the lookout… So I guess – Q.E.D.

    Its interesting how things happen in this world.

    @Crimson Flame,

    Welcome to GGTS, a safe space.
    Small world indeed a very small virtual world. Even DG went to Ozone last night to pick up some of her old comments. Yes, we do leave our footprints/signatures by choice of our words and few can see through us if they wish to. Glad you did. Hope you’ll stay this time.

    Please share this message of hope with anyone who may benefit.
    Peace,
    Desi Girl

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    • Crimson Flame May 20, 2012 at p05 #

      I did like going through some of your posts, because they promote a cause I can relate to.

      But for the most part, I liked it because you seem to be yet another Mono I’ve come across. It amazes me how many of them exist – each in their own silos.

      @Crimson Flame,
      Mono??
      Mononucleosis :) or just monotonous?
      DG

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      • Crimson Flame May 20, 2012 at p05 #

        Or perhaps a monomyth? ;)

        http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monomyth

        Do not take it as a compliment, a snide remark or with indifference. I hardly know you but since we both agree that the choice of words and writing style give away a lot – so this passing comment. As you can guess, this isnt my first year in business ;)

        Compliment or a snide remark, does it matter? If one is in the business long enough these things don’t matter. Monos in silos to each their own…
        DG

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  4. Formerly Anon April 26, 2012 at p04 #

    The more I identified with the ‘Revolution’ of the ‘oppressed’, the more unbearably negative I became as a person.
    This sums up the mentality of all those Indian female bloggers who spend their lives passing judgement, most of it negative.Their views of the society are a reflection of themselves than anything.

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  5. ariana April 26, 2012 at p04 #

    DG,
    Saw this on TOI, what was amusing was the comments from the Men, who totally justified slapping thier wives…The comments made me sad.http://www.itimes.com/public/groups/Crime-against-girl-child/topic/53-girls-think-wife-beating-is-ok

    @Ariana,

    One moron had the audacity to write “yes your absolutly right. I know this is bad to raise hand on wives but some time it happend.” As if it is belching or hiccup. Unless violence against another person is treated as a serious criminal offense wives, kids and men-women with less power will be beaten and oppressed few dominant persons (both genders included).
    DG could not read beyond this comment her patience ran out.
    Peace,
    Desi Girl

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  6. Jyothi April 23, 2012 at p04 #

    What kind of a post is this? You haven’t copied and pasted all the comments , and hence it doesn’t make much sense here. Anyways, I didn’t know that this discussion is still on. I left it long ago when I realized that there is a class difference in people undergoing Domestic Violence. Although I have no idea how my first comment ended up being interpreted this way, I will add here that the “class” you mentioned here don’t sit in front of laptops to read these issues. So I have stopped posting on such stuff or commenting on them. As it is if people like you with IHM’s backing go after someone with a vengeance then they can’t survive for long in the blogging world. Kinda sounds like underworld to me now! :) :) :) :) I forgot you have something against smileys, right? :) :) :) :) :)

    I speak my mind. I don’t read statistics websites to back my theories. I just use common sense. And I have never claimed on “knowing everything”. You on the other hand speak as though you own the domain on theses issues! Blame it on my middle class upbringing, but I think if we are able to take care of our family as well as we can and help produce more educated and sensible individuals, we would have done our part in this ocean of a revolution. Helping the under privileged is definitely a good deed. But they generally don’t blog or read blogs. I do my share and don’t need to blow a trumpet of it.

    Kindly stop manipulating comments however you want to. If you can’t publish a comment as is and give a reply to it in another comment, then don’t publish it at all. When you dissect it, the comments give out a whole new meaning.

    Take care,
    Jyothi.

    P.S :It’s strange how I searched for desigirl.wordpress.com since I was missing you , reached here and found out that you are missing me too. :)

    @jyothi,

    Welcome back to GGTS, a safe space.

    For your kind information this is nothing personal and not about you. You are not the center of DG’s world or that of @IHM’s. GROW UP. The issue here is greater than one individual. It is mentioned in the beginning of the post someone else posed the same question hence to settle the issue for once and all this exercise was undertaken.

    You said: …I don’t read statistics websites to back my theories…

    Fact is you don’t have theories, you have personal opinions and you are entitled to them. For theories DG had to spend 8.5 years of her life in school and she still claims she knows not an iota.

    You said: …I will add here that the “class” you mentioned here don’t sit in front of laptops to read these issues.

    You are right they don’t and the fact is they also don’t ask “what has class got to do with DV.” This question is posed by middle class gentry.

    You are taking care of your family, good for you. Nobody is judging you. Keep up the good job.

    Link to every comment you made is posted in this post just click the hyperlinks.

    Now about missing you or anyone, DG practices restrain in her attachment to people, places and things so missing is not in her program. It is her path and she doesn’t suggest or sell it to anyone.

    Peace,
    Desi Girl

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  7. Yogini April 10, 2012 at p04 #

    Hi DG, I’m copying and pasting a question and your answer from an older thread here just to stay current (and keep track of where I was in case lots of new comments gets it lost in the bunch).

    Yogini: For the widowed mothers, why don’t they try online dating for seniors or meeting the widowers or older divorced, unmarried men in their neighborhoods?

    DG: You know the answer so DG need not answer. Desi divorced men will easily find a never married women but will avoid marrying another divorcee. Thanks to hammered down patriarchal thinking where a woman with mind and experience is considered threat to family and male dominance.

    ___

    I’m not asking about “marriage”. After all a widowed mother of a grown son will most likely be 50 or over and past the ability or desire to bear more children. At that point what is the use of marriage? I’m thinking more in terms of senior dating. An older desi widow and widower (or divorcee or never married) still has an obvious need for opposite gender companionship (otherwise the mothers wouldn’t be trying to get that from their own sons!).

    Why don’t these older single desis date each other? That would be a big relief for their adult children and their spouses.

    Of course marriage is more than procreation. It is just a legal arrangement of ensuring monogamy; preventing indiscriminate access to diverse sexual partners and to maintain inheritance for the progeny.

    Why can’t an older single desi woman should not marry?
    The answer lies in this here.
    A family will loose a helping hand and who ever she marries already has his own grown up family that will again have power and control issues. For this one reason widow remarriage of women of certain age is discouraged in desi context.

    You raised a good question. Last week and older gentleman who reader met here, introduced DG to his new wife. Almost whole community has shunned him and are gossiping about him but he knew DG will be very happy for him. She not only met the couple but also invited herself for dinner (DG doesn’t visit anyone in the community that is the best policy for her coz’ once you eat someone’s salt you can’t call them i***t).
    What problem does the community has with this couple? Community members are scared of being independent and happy rather they are riding holier than thou horse.

    This one incidence show things are changing not only for desi seniors abroad but in India too.
    http://www.hindustantimes.com/India-news/Ahmedabad/Lonely-seniors-have-a-go-at-speed-dating-in-Ahmedabad/Article1-771571.aspx
    Peace,
    DG

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  8. Yogini April 10, 2012 at p04 #

    “DG: That is the whole point of this exercise. Women’s domestic work should be respected. It should be a woman’s choice if she wants to stay at home and raise kids or should go to work outside the home.”

    And it should be a man’s choice too, isn’t it?

    @Yogini,
    If you read GGTS and aware of DG’s stance you’ll not ask this question.
    But if you really want the answer it is “YES”

    http://indianhomemaker.wordpress.com/2010/04/26/what-do-men-need-liberation-from/
    https://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com/2011/04/08/desi-sex-ratio-and-marriage-nirmala-1925-to-2011/
    https://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com/2011/04/25/desi-sisters-nemesis-of-brothers/

    Peace,
    Desi Girl

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  9. Julia April 10, 2012 at p04 #

    Just wanted to respond to the initial question of whether women can ever expect men to take part in childcare, the answer is a resounding “yes.” We as women, must expect more from our men.

    Now I am in the US, only the very well-to-do can afford domestic workers so we must divide up our time to take care of children. Many men will, if expected and asked, step up to the task of being a real parent. Here is an anecdote. I am currently dating a man, a single father to a 7 year old, he never married the mother because she didn’t want to and they have been separate for most of the child’s life. He takes care of him 4 days a week, that means takes him to school, picks him up, takes him to baseball, coaches the team, feeds him, helps him with homework, put him to bed. On the weekends, it means spending quality time, taking him to Hebrew school and going to the grandparents. A big reason I agreed to a second date is how impressed I was with him as a man and a father. Men will step up but we as women, settle for less. Lets stop settling and start expecting more from our men.

    Thank you Julia. Such examples are wonderful to prove that parenting is a learned behavior not instinctual as hammered down.
    DG

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    • Eivind April 13, 2012 at p04 #

      That was my initial reaction too. A resounding yes. I’m in Scandinavia, and I can say without hesitation that it’s reasonable to expect not merely “taking part” in childcare and household chores, but indeed sharing the responsibility.

      When our firstborn was small, it was I that stayed at home taking care of him, while my wife worked full-time as an accountant. Later when we got twins, my wife stayed at home. We do not share work -identically-, there’s some things she does more often (wash clothes, for example) and some things I do more often (wash bathrooms, cooking), but I can honestly say that we share the responsibilities fairly.

      We both work full-time outside the home, and employ no maid or similar, nor do we have the luxury of helpful grandparents living nearby. What makes this possible is the fact that there are good and affordable childcare-facilities available for everyone here.

      I think this arrangement improves the quality of marriage too. We work together as a team, with shared responsibilities for both working to earn an income, and taking care of children and home.

      It also makes us less vulnerable. If something should happen to make one of us unemployed or unable to work, the family will still have one income to fall back upon, thus it’ll be less of a disaster than it’d be for a single-income-family.

      And it lets me have a much closer relationship to my children than men who feel responsible mainly for the income-generating-part tend to have.

      Overall I would thus say that a more fair sharing is good for both men and women.

      @Eivind,

      Thanks for being a role model and DG’s apologies for delay in approving the comment coz’ she thought approving first comment will set auto approval for all other comments by you.
      Peace,
      Desi Girl

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  10. Makk April 10, 2012 at p04 #

    I think we have got same sort of issues.

    people behaving like they know every thing. :)

    @Makk,
    Welcome to GGTS, a safe space.

    The false grandeur of omniscience just by virtue of being born on some part of the universe is a common problem not specific to any culture or community.

    Please share this message of hope with anyone who may benefit.
    Peace,
    Desi Girl

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  11. Indian Homemaker April 10, 2012 at p04 #

    Still reading, but had to stop to comment,
    //DG: That is the whole point of this exercise. Women’s domestic work should be respected. It should be a woman’s choice if she wants to stay at home and raise kids or should go to work outside the home…//

    I also feel, in such cases, not working should not mean being financially dependent. The new Bill dividing Marital Property and giving the wife a share seems to be a step in right direction to sort this dependence.

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  12. Indian Homemaker April 9, 2012 at p04 #

    //Jyothi: I don’t think any woman (or man), educated or not educated, will ever look down upon a rape victim. But moral less girls (or guys for that matter), it’s a different thing all together.//
    Most people, including the Delhi/NCR police believe that most rapes happen to moral less girls, which is why rapists get sympathy.

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    • ariana April 16, 2012 at p04 #

      When people get robbed, does the police ask them, “but you asked for it, you were wearing jewelry, carrying cash, looked rich etc?’
      what a woman wears,or hows she talks is not an open invitation to assualt. I hear american men making comment like that , “She was dressed like a sl**”.
      So what? I always ask them.

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      • Atheist Indian April 22, 2012 at p04 #

        “When people get robbed, does the police ask them, “but you asked for it, you were wearing jewelry, carrying cash, looked rich etc?’”
        The police does ask. The police in India rarely ever register an FIR in common robbery cases – they want to keep the stats happy. When my car was stolen (and returned back, for some odd reason), it took a lot of effort to get them to register the FIR, as they kept questioning me why would someone steal a car and put it back (as if I knew the intentions and motivations of a thief). A number of my friends have similar complaints as well, in cases where mobile phones or laptops are stolen, to police ‘registers’ an unofficial complaint, not a proper FIR.

        Yes, that unofficial report is called “roz naamcha,” daily report register meaning so and so and so came and said I am robbed of xyz. In Punjab they ask Rs. 10,000 to lodge an FIR for robbery. Isn’t that great, person loses stuff and then pays the cops to just record the theft.
        DG

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हमको मालूम है जन्नत की हकीक़त लेकिन, दिल को खुश रखने को ग़ालिब ये ख़याल अच्छा है

Own your relationships. Don't let them own you.

Beyond The Second Sex (स्त्रीविमर्श)

Own your relationships. Don't let them own you.

नारी , NAARI

Own your relationships. Don't let them own you.

Own your relationships. Don't let them own you.

Sparsh

Own your relationships. Don't let them own you.

Zerqa Abid

Own your relationships. Don't let them own you.

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love, friendship and life in the Indian cities

THE PCOS DIVA

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NightLife

Chronicles of Less Urban Living, Fresh from In the Night Farm

आराधना का ब्लॉग

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