Desi Parenting: Raising Devoted Sons

12 Nov

Desi Parenting: Raising Devoted Sons

It is often said in Indian communities that to have good children is a result of one’s good karmas from the previous lives. Desi parents invest in their children especially sons with a hope of receiving old age care as organized state sponsored senior care is not an option. It becomes imperative for parents to keep their sons emotionally obligated to take care of old parents when the time comes. The socialization for this anticipatory duty begins early on. Often mothers shoulder the important task of socializing young men into obedient sons who in future will unquestioningly serve their mothers and sisters.

Here is one example of how desi families tame their sons into men who are still boys at thirty. Meet Pinku, the first born of the two, raised with lots of love and daily dose of chants on how he is the keeper of his mother when she grows old because her husband failed to take care of her. His mother sings every day how she took all the nonsense from her in-laws and his father just because for the sake of her children. She made all these sacrifices for them. She can’t expect anything from her daughter she is not even worth counting rather he’ll be the one to take care of his young sister when she has trouble in her sasural.  In other words, after years of living with a man who could father her children and remain emotionally absent, a son becomes a man substitute for her. Her whole life is spent on emotionally manipulating this son so that he’ll never ever develop real intimacy with another woman his own age. Oh we were talking about Pinku…

When Pinku moved to another town to complete his B. Tech he religiously called home every day to save his mother from a heart attack. Every month when he came home he was indoctrinated to bring some gift for his mother and sister. If he failed to bring something because he ran out of money or he did not have time, his mother would start crying “this is now, what will happen when you’ll get married. You won’t even bother about me. Oh my God! All the sacrifices I made are wasted. I should rather die” To escape this drama Pinku believes in buy borrow or steal but buy mummy ji a gift or he is a dead meat. Sometimes mummy ji just demands what she wants “my friend tells me you get best bhandhini saris in Jaipur…” She doesn’t have to complete the sentence Pinku knows she needs it and he has to get her the sari or she’ll make his life miserable. If he brings just one sari it is a problem because he forgot his sister, the sister who loves him so much and ties him rakhi every year.

By the time Pinku was ready for marriage he was conditioned like Pavlov’s dog every time mummy ji would start a sentence with “I like that thing Mrs. Sharma has… .” Pinku knew he had to bring it for her or his life will be in crisis. Mummy ji wants Pinku to marry Mr. Chaudhary’s not so beautiful daughter. But Pinku has been seeing Rinku for two years now, she is growing impatient so he has to drop the bomb on mummy ji. To his surprise mummy ji is open to the idea. Pinku is skeptical but is happy finally he’ll get to sleep with Rinku legally. At wedding things had to be exactly like mummy ji wanted. Come to our town for the wedding; bring this give that to my daughter because Pinku loves her so much. Rinku and her parents have abided by mummy ji’s every demand both willingly and unwillingly. Finally they are married. Rinku is relieved thank God they do not have to live with mummy ji for more than few days every year.

Yes, Rinku is in for a surprise although mummy ji is not physically present in her two room apartment but her life is over ridden by her subtle body. Pinku religiously calls mummy ji every day to tell her what he did and what time Rinku woke up. When he buys Rinku something he makes sure he buys one for his mother and another for his sister. Rinku detests it and told him this should change but Pinku is immune to it. One time when they visited his parents he ironed her sari and mummy ji had an attack of hysteria her son has become a “joru ka ghulam” (uxorious). Now she is worried if he’ll care for her in future. When Pinku was not around mummy ji told Rinku she’ll make sure Rinky is thrown out within a year of her marriage and then she’ll bring bahu (daughter-in-law) of her own choice. Rinku asked mummy ji if she was so against her then why did she consent to their marriage. Mummy ji sagaciously replied “I could not lose my son. If I had resented he would have turned against me or he would have committed suicide. I want him but not you so I’ll make sure you’ll leave him.”

Pinku and Rinku have moved to the U.S. now phone calls have changed into video chat. Pinku spends long hours after work on  the computer talking to mummy ji and Rinky sits in front of the T.V. until he is done or goes to bed. Pinku doesn’t know what is Rinku’s problem his parents do not even live with them. The other day Pinku was crying while they were watching “Baagbaan” the bollywood melodrama of daughters-in-law ill treating retired in-laws. Lately she has found Pinku sleep talking “Mummy I am sorry, mummy please do not die I’ll leave her.” “I am sorry mummy forgive me don’t leave me, I’ll listen to you.” Lately, after making love he runs to call his mother as if is trying to announce his allegence to mummy ji and feels guilty for sleeping with Rinku.

Rinku feels they are three people sleeping in the bed but she can’t tell anyone what the problem is as her in-laws do not live with her. Is she cooking it in her head or it is for real… .

26 Responses to “Desi Parenting: Raising Devoted Sons”

  1. anonymous February 12, 2013 at p02 #

    This is so much like the first couple of years of my marriage.

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  2. Punam J R February 11, 2013 at p02 #

    DG.. this one was a complete reality check!! And the real percentage of such people (read ma-devoted sons) is perhaps higher and hardly known to the world…
    It’s really a sad state of affairs when the son, who could have been the spine of the home, by treating mother and wife as two individuals in their own right, decides to be pliable to either one of them.
    It’s definitely not easy, to give in to mama dear’s demands or side her off on wifey’s demands but a sensible man would know how to handle it without being unfair to either of them.

    @Punam J R,
    Welcome to GGTS, a safe space.
    Treating each relation with respect it deserves without trampling the other is the key. Each realtionship has a specific status and role just follow that a mother can not compte with your wife, there is no competition under any circumstances but people make it into a foray so they suffer and make others suffer. Life is simple just follow your path without side tracking. When a mother of a gorwn up son tries to diaper him it is then the trouble arises.
    When a sister tries to teach a brother how he should not forget his mother’s sacrifices it is then the trouble arises. If we just behave like adults and not five year olds in adult bodies life will be lot simpler.
    Please share this message of hope with anyone who may benefit.
    Peace,
    Desi Girl

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    • Punam J R February 11, 2013 at p02 #

      Just an after-thought… maa beta bahu relationship is definitely not a triangle, although a lot of men end up making it so.

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    • Punam May 2, 2013 at p05 #

      Why are my comments held in moderation, DG?

      @Punam,
      Welcome to GGTS, a safe space.
      First time comments automatically go into moderation there after comments made with same moniker and email appear on the said page.
      If you are a first time comment writer so that has happened and DG has been away from GGTS for a pretty long time there is nothing personal about it.
      Please share this message of hope with anyone who may benefit.
      Peace,
      Desi Girl

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  3. Glacier March 20, 2012 at p03 #

    @Raghav

    ‘Why do wives expect their husband’s mother to step aside once they occupy a place in their husbands’ lives after the wedding? What’s wrong in a son treating his parents as a priority in his life after all the endless sacrifices that they have made and will continues to make for him in future.’

    I am a dude but this is totally screwed up. Never get married please, you will save a divorce. The best dude is always who can treat both parents and the wife in their own right without giving preference to either – very very rarely do I see this. It is not sacrifice if you have to pay back for it – it is manipulation.

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    • girlsguidetosurvival March 28, 2012 at p03 #

      @Glacier,

      Hey there. How have you been. Thanks for stepping up. You started blogging wao, that is great. I really need to use your diet log in tool.
      Will check it thoroughly later. Good luck.
      Peace,
      Desi Girl

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      • Glacier March 30, 2012 at p03 #

        @DG

        Hey, I’m pretty good, how are you? Bloody busy with work & working on the website. It’s still in early stages, I want to see how far I can take it. Lots of new features coming soon. I got sick of the existing options out there so I made my own. The blog will pretty much be about the website – I don’t think I can write a personal blog such as this one – just don’t have the patience for it.

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  4. love March 15, 2012 at p03 #

    DG – This is addressed to a comment to Mr.Raghav, where he is complaining about the racist attacks. Sometimes Mr.Raghav the truth needs to be stated just the way it should be. There are many healthy ma-beta relationships which are truly beautiful and that is the way it is supposed to be. The other side to it is the control and manipulation that parents and usually mothers exhibit towards their son – which very perverted. If you have not experienced it or seen it around you good for you. Please do not stop anyone else from expressing their experience in the way they know it and have come to see it.

    I hope you are doing well DG (I do not know what my code name is anymore) will make up a new one, because life is looking up.

    @Love,
    Welcome back to GGTS, a safe space.
    Guess this Raghav person is refusing to accept that may be even DG believes the romantic angle Paula’s Nani pointed out. In different posts and comments on this blog and else where DG has clearly stated for emotionally neglected wives sons fill in the void. These emotionally neglected wives live vicariously through the lives of their children especially sons even to the extent of often competing for sons’ attention with his wife.
    He needs 101 on Indian Sexuality. This is meta text and there are critiques too.

    Thanks for asking, DG is doing as good as she can be. Universe is kind. Most readers understand her long unannounced absences. Will be back soon.

    Please share this message of hope with anyone who may benefit.

    Peace,
    Desi Girl

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    • Raghav March 16, 2012 at p03 #

      @DG

      ‘which even DG believes’: As if you opinion counts and whatever you write on this blog is an universally acknowledged, gospel truth simply because some like-minded home- wreckers with malefic intent might have embraced your opinions and deemed them to be right.

      Such thoughts & beliefs expressed here might just be a product of a wierd, fertile imagination and to openly voice irrational, demeaning thoughts of such calibre is ghastly.

      @ Love

      I can embrace several truths but refuse to fall prey to a lie masquerading as a fact aimed to connivingly manipulate the masses into believing it.

      If a son’s filial love for his parents/ siblings / his mother (as has been especially pointed out here; save the poor,sweet, helpless mother) is a sign of his being ‘manipulated’, then such blame is surely questionable.

      Why do wives expect their husband’s mother to step aside once they occupy a place in thsir husbands’ lives after the wedding? What’s wrong in a son treating his parents as a priority in his life after all the endless sacrifices that they have made and will continues to make for him in future.

      Is gifting one’s mother a diamond necklace (an act of his free will & not because she compelled him to do do for he is a grown-up man and wives need to understand that) on her birthday and gifting his wife a birthday card on hers, a sign of manipulation? Does that make him a less concerned husband? Can’t he reciprocate the eternal love his mother/parents has/have showered on him?

      If a guy goes out for movies and dinners with his mother ( & doesn’t ask his wife to come along just the way he doesn’t include his mother when he goes out with his wife); can such private occasions with his mom be termed as ‘dates’ or acts of manipulation or attempts to vie for her son’s affection by the mother?

      After marriage, the wife expects to accompany husband to each & every event (with or without the exclusion his family members);
      the wife always feels the need to be there with him even if his mother is not included & yet she can’t stay way and leave him alone for a while with his mothers/dad/bro/sis.

      Is spending time with one’s mother without including his wife an example of perversion? Such a thought might appear shocking to many wives for they would object to the presence of their MILs even when they themselves are in their husband’s company at that point ot time?

      Doesn’t a guy’s mother/father/siblings have a right to celebrate their relationship with him but his wife has every right to do so (private dinners. vacations & all that) with the exclusion of his own family that he might be living with? Such hypocrisy is sick!

      Isn’t it a perversion for a wife to work up her charms in the bedroom at night with the sole intent of weaning him way from his family members/mother? (having said that I would also like to add that it is the husband (the men) who are the bigest culprits in this case).
      This might sound funny to you or some other people but there are many women who pleasingly condescend to use these tactics to sway their husbands to their side realising their addiction for carnal pleasures?

      Yes, there is no doubt that such sick men are worthy of accusation because they simply pick up fights with their own family members owing to the gratification of carnal desires by their wives?

      I don’t need to flicker through the pages of any research publications because I cultivate my relationships based on my very own instincts and emotions.

      You also have missed out on what ‘Puala……’ by conveniently twisting facts that suit your arguements.
      She said there’s a romantic aspect to a desi mother-son relationship clearly hinting at ‘incest’ and there is nothing further from truth. She needs to shed-off her highly distorted perception of reality.

      @Raghav,

      What DG writes is definitely not a gospel but is definitely supported by evidence based research.
      What you just wrote in response to @Love is what DG has advocated at numerous posts. It is the extreme thinking, this or that, that complicates the any relationship as relationships are in constant influx not static.

      https://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com/2010/02/23/desi-son-obligated-to-take-care-of-mother/
      https://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com/2010/11/15/desi-mothers-a-generation-lost-in-translation/
      https://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com/2011/04/25/desi-sisters-nemesis-of-brothers/
      https://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com/2009/11/28/desi-in-laws-wedging-a-psychological-warfare-against-bahus/
      https://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com/2010/03/24/401/

      What do you want DG and readers to do?
      You don’t like it GGTS then get off this space choice is yours.
      Leave us 139,423 hits strong alone.
      Peace,
      DG

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  5. Raghav March 9, 2012 at p03 #

    @ DesiGirl

    Well, I must say that you don’t seem to be adept at the art of of offering reasonable arguements.So, shutting off a visitor to this blogspace by curbing his freedom of speech & expression won’t serve any of your purposes.

    You should gracefully admit your mistake and be more vigilant in future. My advice: You should learn the art of handling constructive criticism and steer clear of any strategy of smothering someone’s voice in such a domineering fashion.

    A task that you were supposed to perform and a role that you were obligated to fulfill has been carried out by me because you failed to honour your commitment to ensure a safe healing space here.

    What part of ‘the issue has been addressed elsewhere on this blog” is difficult to understand.
    Want to win this argument? Good, you win. BE HAPPY.
    DG

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    • Raghav March 15, 2012 at p03 #

      @DG

      It’s not about winning an arguement but it is about the power to discriminate between right & wrong.

      Many sane-minded members of desi community would take serious offence to comment of this nature.

      The comment posted here by ‘Paula’s …….. :

      ‘I believe there’s a romantic quality in desi maa-beta relationship’

      is not only deeply racist but also is one of the most horrid remarks that I have encountered in my entire life.

      May be such comments can only find a place on site like this where motherly love is considered to be mental incest in disguise.

      If mother’s love for her son and vice versa is an example of a perversion, then I must say that there isn’t any relationship ever that is worthy of being developed and nurtured on this earth.

      Moreover, if this comment by ‘Paula’s …..’ was posted with the intent to titillate and feed the depraved & kinky fantasies of some people, then it definitely can allowed be serve it’s purpose on sites designed to entertain such an audience but certainly NOT here unless this forum is willing to stoop down to their level.

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  6. Raghav March 8, 2012 at p03 #

    @Desi Girl

    I was caught unaware by your comment at my post;this is when I least expected it. You could have congratulated me for my earnest attempt to make sure that this blog turns out be a bias free, egalitarian space which is free from all kinds of stereotypes & prejudices.

    You feel that you did me a great favour by allowing my post to stay here but you would have done yourself and this forum’s visitors a great disservice by blocking me for you would have sent a very wrong, undemocratic message to the visitors of this forum.

    You can easily ignore such hate speech attacking a community for you don’t feel the dire need to address the prejudice & ignorance laced opinions.

    If standing up for one’s own community/race/nation is termed as defensive, then so be it. I am proud of safeguarding the interests of my community or nation which is my very identity and won’t tolerate any such crude remarks.

    It would have been a lot better if you would have monitered all these preposterous racial hate-laced comments with same urgency as you have been doing to mine. (not even a single comment should have escaped your notice)

    It seems that you tend to selectively weed out the opinions that don’t resonate with your beliefs while casting a mere passing glance to the ones that a find an echo in your heart no matter how brutal & racist, they may be.

    My sincere endeavour to ensure a bias-free forum has been met with ingratitude but on second thought I shouldn’t be complaining for there are many real life incidents that show that the wages of sincerity are far from being rewarding.

    Stop this rant and grow up. DG told you in the previous comment the racism in that particular comment has been addressed else where on this blog. One can stand up for their community objectively without resorting to personal attacks. Learn to the art of argument by using effective reasoning and language.
    We are done here.
    DG

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  7. arpz May 2, 2011 at p05 #

    “kahaani ghar ghar ki” eh? I just try and hope my mom does’nt end up like the typical MILs

    @arpz,
    Welcome to GGTS, a safe space.

    Your mum will not turn into typical MIL if you step up and act as a gate keeper. We as children know our parents inside out, we know what they are capable of and if we choose to turn a blind eye to their misdemeanors they can compound and become a felony🙂 .
    Just tell her as you are an adult and would like to make your decisions so would your brother’s wife.🙂
    Please share this message of hope with anyone who may benefit.

    Peace,
    Desi Girl

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  8. Broken DesiGirl November 20, 2010 at p11 #

    I agree with every bit of reasoning for the facts that you put. My father-in-law was always emotionally unavailable to my MIL. My husband behaved just like his father did. He is the only son. My MIL was looking to her son for her emotional security. I realized she was a very insecure woman. My husbands emotional maturity level is that of a 3 year old. Out of the 12 years together, 11 1/2 were spent with him not being there emotionally. For he last 2 years I took on the impossible task of doing whatever my In Laws wanted out of me. He saw that and they were times that he fought with them. But then they made him feel all the more miserable for standing up against him. My husband in this case was always looking to gain his father’s approval….he awlays felt so sad and sorry for how hard they worked and “sacrificed” their life. As though my parents did not…but they also let me live free and become the person I could.
    Here it was a son trying to fulfill the emotional needs of not only his mother but also of his father. These people never let him grow into and adult. I do not feel sorry for my husband, because he can blame his parents for who he is but as an adult he needs to take accountability for his actions and right the wrong..All I ever wanted was for him to see I loved him, for him to be emotionally present and one with me. But only a real man will take the information given to them, and make the right choices in life. A real man will love his wife and child no matter what. He will give his life for his family (his wife and children)

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  9. Smitha June 23, 2010 at p06 #

    You know, I feel a lot of mothers have had a hard time, and actually look towards their sons to fulfill all their aspirations, which their husbands did not.. I know of MILs demanding jewellary, clothes, whatever the son happens to gift his wife.. Crazy but true. One of my friends had a very similar experience. The only diff was that hers was an arranged marriage…

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    • girlsguidetosurvival July 6, 2010 at p07 #

      Smitha,

      It doesn’t make a difference if it is an arranged or love marriage. If the mother of the groom is unstaisfied, insecure, attention seeking person she’ll do exactly what you mentioned and manipulate the son. Here I was wondering where I lfet this reference:
      “…Roger says he is unable to lead a regular life, for fear of the “emotional drama” that always follows. His mother feels threatened if he divides his attention. “I feel like her husband and not her son,” he says.” http://www.telegraphindia.com/1090329/jsp/7days/story_10740079.jsp

      It is kind of mental incest in the name of mother love rather extortion by making guilty.

      Peace,
      DG

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    • desibahu March 15, 2012 at p03 #

      yes exactly….so if wife is going out to buy a pair of shoes, mother orders, “bring me such and such pair”…….
      if brother’s wife gets something that the sisters have gotten, they complain that he gives his wife whatever he buys for them(sisters).
      pretty sick if you think about it.
      what kind of person competes with dil for son’s attention?
      what kind of person competes with brother’s wife for brother’s attention?
      or worse yet, what kind of mother competes with daughter for son in law’s attention? i have seen this one too! girl’s mother wearing son-in-laws favorite colors when he shows up and stuff like that.

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  10. khamoshi 2 January 7, 2010 at p01 #

    I came to stay with my parents three months before the delivery because his mother and sisters were constantly picking on me and my blood pressure was rising dangerously high. He has just seen her when she was 3 days old now she is 8th month baby. I want to ask you something- what kind of man is my husband that he does not even take efforts to see his daughter or be curious about her? Is it a general behavior in men (especially Indian men) or is it that only when he starts living with her the emotional bonds will develop. I have come across men who just fall flat on the new born child, more when it is a female child, why is it deficient in my husband? If I don’t make any sense from him, my daughter is not able to attract him, I have to set my mind on how much to expect emotionally from him in future.

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    • girlsguidetosurvival January 11, 2010 at p01 #

      Congratulations! for the baby girl.
      I am sorry that you are going through these emotionally challenging times due to your spouse’s negligence or emotional abandonment. It is hard for me to say what kind of person your husband is because I do not know him. But one thing I can say for sure he is choosing to behave the way he is behaving towards his child. He is a grown up man and he made a conscious decion to have a child with you so he ought to take his responsibility seriously.

      …how much to expect emotionally from him in future.

      You know the answer in your heart. Pregnancy and child birth are the most vulnerable times in a woman’s life. If her partner fails to be there for her without any compelling reasons (posted away on job, is hurt and is in hospital or is dead)then it speaks volumes about his emotional availability.

      I would like to draw your attention to the fact that some men are physically present with their pregrant partners through out the pregnancy but are still emotionally unavailable.

      Also, research shows intimate partner violence against women escaltes during pregnancy.

      Please protect your self. Know your righits and your options. You are not alone. There are many women like you out there. If you are in the US call your local domestic violence help line. If you are in India talk to your doctor and ask her to refer you to a good non profit organization that works with domestic violence survivors.

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  11. Paula's Naaniji December 14, 2009 at p12 #

    I always thought there was a “romantic” quality in the Desi ma-beta relationship. These mother-in-laws need to find boyfriends to fulfill their needs for attention. Isn’t there some senior Desi dating site online?

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    • Raghav March 7, 2012 at p03 #

      Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder and the reverse can also be true.
      Sadly, the reverse is applicable in your case.

      I, along with many others who will or would have read this shocking post have to/ will admit that we won’t feel amused in the slightest if you find the fragrance of beautiful, fresh roses nauseating but the stench of a dirty, open sewage drain, a pleasant olfactory experience.

      A word of advice that you will not accept but I am compelled to offer it here (for the sake of our current & future generations) : STAY away from kids, especially yours, because there seem’s to be a very serious, flaw in your very own mental make-up.

      @Raghav,

      Welcome to GGTS, a safe space.
      No personal attacks are permitted here. Every one is entitled to their views you may not agree and you may refute but please maintain respect of this forum.

      Please share this message of hope with anyone who may benefit.

      Peace,
      Desi Girl

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      • Raghav March 8, 2012 at p03 #

        I hope you would also incorporate a policy to stop racist attacks on this forum. The comment posted here shouldn’t have been permitted to stay for long.

        The word ‘desi’ used here carries extremely harsh racist overtones and I feel that it is more worse than a personal attack since it is directed at the entire community/race.

        I don’t feel that I have posted anything wrong that has maligned the integrity of this forum because even a racist attack like the one posted above on this forum has gone unnoticed either by accident or shall I say, by design.

        I am suprised that my comment has been subjected to such heavy scrutiny while a comment of such harsh nature (ie. racist) has glibly escaped your astute observation.

        The response to her comment is made elsewhere on this blog; if you think it has gone unnoticed by design then that is your opinion. GGTS is a safe space and it will remain so. You need not get defensive. Who is more wrong here is not the question because two wrongs do not make a right. DG could have easily blocked your comment but she made a choice to let it display.
        You could have objected to the racism in her comment without getting personal by using facts but it was a choice you made.
        DG

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  12. girlsguidetosurvival December 12, 2009 at p12 #

    Thanks for the encouragement. Please forward it to those may benefit from this information.

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    does the subscribe thing send your stuff to my email, or does it just send me a link to your new posts?

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    • girlsguidetosurvival December 13, 2009 at p12 #

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