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GGTS is 3

16 Oct

10/16/2012

Today with 215,783 hits GGTS turns three. Thanks to all readers, supporters and comment writers to help keep this space safe and productive for healthy initiatives to venture into desi relationships.  When DG started writing three years ago her undying optimism nurtured a lofty ambition of revolutionizing desi relationships and reaching out millions. That happened or not is different story but she definitely believed if she dreamt little bigger like she aimed little higher  in her .303 range firing she’ll hit the target. Her target audience was middle class educated and gainfully employed desi women or desi s, she did reach some in multiple ways and desi men of course came on their own.

Year I

These three years have been a very productive journey with personal ups and downs. In the first year she learned to use gchat and started chatting with her readers beyond GGTS. Few of those interacting with her were curious about her identity and asked too many personal questions. Curiosity is understandable but inquisitiveness is unwelcome. Those who respected DG never asked any personal question of identification are still around. Four of those readers and co bloggers have kept in touch from time to time through gchat and gtalk given their personal trials and constraints on time. This is a shout out to @IHM, @Bikram, @Anju Ghandhi and @STIC. During this time DG wrote regularly and posted lots of analytical material that was self explanatory and was designed to be used as self help. She answered each comment in great detail and supported numerous women to the extent of making personal international calls. As a survivor working outside the system she felt strongly to hold every hand that reached out. There was also an attempt to highjack GGTS that was foiled and DG learned to post copy right inscription and how to monitor use of her moniker.

Year II

In the year two her posts became fewer given her personal engagements but she regularly followed up with her comment writers through personal emails. Self doubt is a root characteristic of abused people until they understand the basics of abuse they keep fighting every well researched reason you offer.  Once they get hold of basics of relationship between love and abuse; how it operates and it’s cyclic nature they sooner or later make a decision. Once they reach the decision they don’t need much help from DG they quickly move on. While on an international trips she kept regular check on comments and gmail. While on one such trip an abused woman reached out to DG she gave her hours of one on one attention through live chat and resources yet she came back few months later to seek answer to same questions. DG did observe distressed comment writers had a pattern they kept coming back with same questions and seeking DG’s attention. She felt disappointed and defeated because either those readers were not getting it or thought DG was idle waiting for them to ping her.

It is interesting during this period DG was like everybody else dealing with her personal stuff too. These women who desperately sought her vanished she hoped they moved on. As usual DG regularly followed up with them. Most had made a decision and had moved on but none found it worth to let DG know that her hours of one on one personal attention paid off or not.  It is then DG started struggling with the thought what do readers owe a blogger? Comment, acknowledgement or formal greetings! Guess, not a thing. These were people who could not afford therapy, life coaches or any kind of professional help given their circumstances were counting on someone who could be there for them.

It is then a woman wrote a comment and asked DG if she could send her a personal email. A globetrotting successful professional trapped in emotionally abusive marriage. DG spoke to her couple of times coordinating her schedule to the different time zone. Then DG finds an email reading, “Sorry DG….I have let you down….I can fight no more…..” What is DG suppose to make of it? Those were scary 24 hours, few of you have been part of that scare helping DG find out if the writer was safe. It was a fake id and fake name what could DG do, count her blessings and pray for the safety of the writer. If DG suspects the person she is in communication with is in danger in anyway be it from someone else or from self she’ll do everything in her power to make sure they are safe. But she can’t help you if you don’t want to help yourself. Next day this person apologized and few days later vanished and just reappeared a month ago. DG is glad she made her decision and is getting back her life but had no interest to inform DG about it. Did she have to? Nopes, not at all.

It is then DG started receiving occasional personal emails from young desi men who were interested to learn about improving their personal relationships and learn about healthy ways of conflict resolution. One even wrote a guest post about his reclamation journey. DG continued making international calls when and where a person in need appeared. DG misses Gbuzz it was a good place to initiate discussions on wide variety of topics with wide range of audience.

Year III

Year three has been pretty slow for DG’s writing efforts. It is not that she ran out of topics or she is burnt out. She is just not motivated to write because some people are assuming she is on a rescue mission. Rather at times it makes her angry that all this time and effort she has put into GGTS is of no use if some support seekers do not even have basic etiquette about how to seek help irrespective of the fact there is a post on that too.   To amuse herself she started a 30 day rant but that too fizzled out within a week. She has put out enough material in the form of posts, pages and comments for anyone to read and learn. But still there are people who have no regard for the work she has put forward who still expect to be spoon fed instead of digging the posts and comments carefully. Few friends of GGTS, suggested and helped in starting a nominal fee based service for those who can afford but very few people opted for that. Even when they could afford to pay this demonstrates how serious they are about the relationship issues they are dealing with.

If one is sick one seeks best treatment or tries to find the best remedy. If your relationship is sick you seek the cheapest solution and advice; browse blogs seek total strangers who judge you and shred you. This is how important desi relationships are. DG has worked hard to keep GGTS a rant free space. Few co bloggers have forwarded her emails from their readers who are in need of help. It feels good that peers think DG can help but the truth is she can only do as much. No one can help you if you don’t want to help yourself. It is hard to stay focused when you are abused, you are depressed and are on a constant guard to avoid next assault either emotional or physical or both but you have to do what you have to do to get from point A to point B. DG is there to walk with you from point A to point B but you have to take the first step she can’t do that for you. Be informed, browse around and read GGTS.

Rules of Engagement

DG is still making those international calls. There are readers who are in touch with her through personal emails and who genuinely check with her from time to time. As a reader you do not owe her a thing, just don’t fake interest in her well-being. Don’t expect her to share her personal struggles with you, here she is a service provider and is bound by professional ethics. She’ll let you know what you need to know. She has already shared a lot about her personal life. Just know when you ping her she responds but that does not mean she is sitting idle she makes time for you. She doesn’t give a hoot what you think about her but respect her time.

Post Logue

True, this post doesn’t sound like regular anniversary posts you read elsewhere. GGTS, is a different space and so is DG, very unapologetic. She is humbled by the love she has received here. She is grateful for the friends she has made. A best asset a woman can have is her head over her shoulders and strong women in her life than dysfunctional men. This is a shout out for you all gals who have stood with DG- Preeti, Julia, Alison, Narcolovelies . A best asset a man can have is to grow some spine and yank that uncut umbilical chord. DG has some relatively functional male supporters of her cause as peers and comrades. There are a good number of male subscribers of GGTS now even a male blog is following GGTS, God know how they plan to liberate men by reading A Desi Girl’s Guide to Relationship Survival. DG writes poetry on facebook you can join her there. Yes, even DG needs help from time to time some angles have been walking DG from point A to point B every day. They are angles so they cannot be identified.

Stay safe and stay happy, healthy and holy until we touch base again.

In Continuation… Happiness: A Work in Progress…

31 Dec

Happiness: A Work in Progress… 2

In continuation…

December 31st, 2011

To understand happiness we have to explore our relationship with unhappiness. Like everybody else DG’s relationship with unhappiness began very early in childhood. Out of the womb into the world of new faces what does a baby know? Poo, pee and scream for feed poor mum runs crazy to quite this little bundle of joy that it no longer is. So begins the regime to regulate feeding hours thus will follow the changing times and so on. Did the baby like it? How could baby tell? Baby could not talk so began the campaign to teach her how to talk. Once parents succeed in this they want to display their feat to the world. My baby can say “mommy,” “daddy,” “chocolate and what not. It became baby’s job to make them proud and happy in the world of parents to complete the sentence “my dog is better than…” or else baby was being difficult and a bad baby.

Baby picked it early on the smile mommy gives depends on obeying the commands. The smart baby goes ahead and not only follows the commands but learns new tricks for treats (approval). Some tricks/behaviors especially those the baby used her brain to learn were detrimental to parental reputation and baby’s survival outside the home. First they taught her how to talk now she speaks the truth so they have to teach her how to shut up. Auntie is fat, uncle is not good, mommy said… Thus began the second campaign to teach the baby what is desirable and does not challenges the parental wisdom and authority. The “saam, daam, dand, bhed” (use all means- tricks, treats, spanking, grounding) were used to train and make the toddler an obedient doggie. Oh, this wicked baby came programmed with her creator’s secret code fixed deep within her soul and parents had a difficult task of decoding it or shutting the code off. This is child’s earliest encounter with happiness and unhappiness.

Lesson she learned was  happiness of significant people in her life is in her hands and key to her happiness is with the significant people in her life and any other person she considers worth. So our happiness is actually mortgaged to others and each is carrying the burden of keeping the other happy. But the fact is nobody can make anyone happy if they decide to be unhappy. Do you recall the story of “sad princess,” a spoilt brat of a princess one time became silent and sad  for years and she would not laugh. Her father, the king pledged half of his kingdom to anyone who could make her laugh. Thousands tried but she did not laugh and one day she laughed at a lousy freak show. Did it mean other shows weren’t good enough? It was a choice she made. May be she laughed when she understood the joke or she became tired of remaining silent and sad.

Truth is happiness because truth sets you free but all social energies are focused on declaring the truth a malady, an ailment in need of a cure or elimination. From early on children are taught how not to honor their inner voice, a voice kept there by their creator to keep them safe. Even a very young child knows who not to trust or get closer to but parents and caregivers negate child’s apprehension and make them vulnerable to abuse. It is true children need to be taught venturing out from the safety of homes and caregivers but they also need to trust their instincts. DG felt early in the courtship it wasn’t feeling right but her friends, family and media convinced her it is just a figment of her mind and she ought to take this risk. How is a person supposed to trust their instincts when there is no validation from those around them? But why did she need a validation? Because validation and approval was what she grew up for, when and where ever she used her instincts as a guide she got in trouble as it did not match the social conventions rather challenged the folk wisdom and authority.

That inner voice never dies the clutter we pile on it just makes it feeble. Reclaiming happiness is to de-clutter and start listening to that voice. The more you honor our body and its messages the more we get closer to happiness. This body we have was given to us at birth and will remain with us until our last breath but we chose to trust everyone else who’ll leave us at anytime unannounced. Why are they more important than our body that it has to yell, scream and fall sick for our attention? In previous post DG mentioned how her hormones went haywire. Connect with your body and its messages you’ll discover “YOU” and it will lead you to the path of happiness. If your spouse is being an idiot your body will tell you don’t fight it or try to justify his/her bad behavior just accept the truth. If in-laws are monster-in-law then accept it don’t try to win in a game they invented. If your parents and siblings are energy drain and drama junkies don’t deny it accept it and protect yourself from energy suckers. If your DIL or SonIL are difficult just give yourself a timeline how much time you want to spend in their company.

Happiness is a choice. Gone are the days when marriages were means of survival for women and they had to take all the nonsense or else they had to kill themselves (this sentence is directed towards GGTS readers- middle class, highly educated and gainfully employed women; DG is very much aware of hardships of abused married women who have no recourse as she was one of them). No matter what the circumstances there is always a way out if we become still and listen to our body and our inner voice. When we acknowledge worldly chaos and accept it as truth that is when we get lost in unhappiness. DG has lived in homeless shelters, faced hunger, bore social stigmatization, isolation, self doubt and what not but she always had one thing clear in her head no matter what she was created out of kindness for happiness and she’ll achieve it.

Just consider what is important for you happiness or winning medals of social approval? The day DG decided “if you don’t pay my rent and bills then what you think about me don’t matter” half her troubles were gone and the other half is constant work on SELF.

This is a short post and yes, it did cut corners because DG wanted to honor her word that she’ll post before the year end. She is moving on New Year’s Day so she’ll be little busy in coming week or so. But she promises she’ll share her journey in coming weeks and months. Please follow the links carefully because each link documents her journey on this path.

                         Experience is not what happened to you; it is what you do with what happens to you.

                                                                                                                                                                                           -Aldous Huxley.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Once Upon a Time There Lived a Happy Gal=HG

24 Mar

Often Desi Girl receives personal emails from readers seeking support and validation. These emails are all similar but these different writers suffer in isolation wondering as if they are the only ones going through this chaos. The truth is greater number of married Desi women are mired by psychological warfare by waged by in-laws and unsupportive spouses analogous to spineless squids with uncut umblical chords. All this happens in the name of generational reverance, lower position of women as ascribed in the great traditions of this great culture and over indulgence of faceless strangers called “log” in other people’s business. The problems are further exacerbated due to lack of personal boundaries and problem solving skills.

Most personal emails received by DG do not make it to GGTS. DG works with those writers one on one in identifying problems, creating a strategy to proceed and follow up with them time to time. Some write back a thank you note and some never return and DG assumes they are doing good. Today morning DG received this email with this attachement from Confused DIL.

All DG could do was smile and say THANK YOU.

On the request of Confused DIL the previous story board has been removed. It did not show case her talent that well. She wants it replaced by new story board.

 

 

Desi Girl storyboard

Desi Girl storyboard

 

 

 

 

 

This is a great validation of the work Desi Girl is doing. Thanks to all reader, comment writers and supporters of GGTS.

A New Fatwa: Does it Matter?

11 May

A New Fatwa: Does it Matter?

The ringing phone woke me up. I am not a morning person, though I want to be one because it would help with my sadhana. It is not my thing. I did not want to get out of the bed but the phone would not stop ringing (I keep phone and alarm clock on the other side of the room just a technique to help me from sinking back into the bed). I picked the phone; it was Begum, my Pakistani friend. I mumbled “Ah, Begum so early whatz up?” Begum was pretty charged up. She was up in arms, “Did you see that on the ndtv, did you see it.” I was still sleepy and Begum was literally screaming in my ears. She asked me to turn on my computer and take a look at the email she sent me. I wanted little time but she was on my way or high way. I abided by what she said.

Her email read “watch this and write something.” I am one lazy dog who refuses to write about current topics because I know many bloggers will do that every morning so why do I need to reinvent the wheel. Rather I prefer writing comments on other people’s posts. Here Begum was on my case. She was calling me 11,000 miles away at an uncomfortable time to tell me what she thinks about this new fatwa on working women. Her voice was tense and high pitched all charged up. Here is what she said:

“Ask this attention seeking juvenile who is going to pay my rent and bills. Is he going to send me a check to cover my daughter’s school fee because her father washed off his hands after returning my mehar (dower)? Is he going to make sure my old parents are taken care off when I work in a sweat shop because it is one place where only women work and have no interaction with unrelated men. He doesn’t have to work his rent money comes from the zakat (tithe) other people make. How much is he willing to send me? Where should I send my budget? Begum’s voice was rising and I was now almost awake. She continued, “He is talking about the divine career or carrier like the cycle carrier, on the day of judgment why doesn’t he say anything about my present. Yeh, kill my present career to make my divine career, good advice.” “Why is he concerned about my journey on the pul-e-siraat I’ll manage it on my own, I make an honest living and I am raising my daughter all by myself. Does he have anything to say to the father of my child? Why can’t he mind his own business, attention seeker?

 I had to say something before her voice rose even higher. I said, “Begum, this guy is in India and you are in Pakistan on vacation why are you so charged up and what is this with attention seeking thing?” I was amused at her explanation, “Your Khaps have seized all the attention in the last month and there is nothing for this guy to do these days. In order to feel he exists and to make others known that he is still alive he has to make such absurd comments every now and then. Do you think we educated women are going to follow what he says? Be assured we are not, he is just barking at the wrong tree. Will your Sania Mirza stop playing or Shabana Azmi quit acting. But he is definitely making it hard for the poor uneducated masses especially women and pushing them into cycle of poverty generation after generation. I asked again, “He is in India how does it bother you?” Her response was, “As a sensible person it bothers me. It encourages other guys in the third world to come up with such absurd ideas and make women’s already hard lives harder.”

 Begum was equally mad at the moderates and liberals. She said the moderates were buying peace from such fundamentalist at any cost forgetting peace at any cost is no peace where as, liberals are hiding because they are scared to face the fundamentalists. She had few other personal and not so personal things to vent out and I am all ears. Isn’t that what friends are for. I have eliminated all the expletives from this talk. I love her Urdu spiced with Punjabi and before saying Allah Hafiz I asked her to narrate Ustad Daman’s my favorite couplet:

Anna mare anni noo, ghasun pain dhammi noo,


A blindman in his bid to hit the blind woman hits a pillar but is thinking he is hitting the blindwoman.

 Keep bribing and corrupting the system as much you can, keep biting on what ever you can but still keep screaming it is evil system.

Jinni jinni paindi ay oni oni paayi jao, whichon wich khayee jao, utton utton rola payi jao.

Do what ever works as always thus continue your old ways (contribute to towards the corruption of the system ) but keep crying wolf (keep complaining like always).  This was the best interpretation I could provide.

Desi Bahus: Gladiators in the Arena

24 Mar

Desi Bahus: Gladiators in the Arena

Often the search engine terms used to find this blog are quite amusing. One term especially caught Desi Girl’s attention, “why are desi girls so mean to each other.” This post is an answer to this question and the one posed by Desi Bahu.

 

Women’s oppression in any male dominated society and violence against women (VAW) in homes perpetrated by men is a sad situation. It not only demands attention but often becomes the poster of all violence against women thus ignoring other forms and agents of violence against women. Behind the closed doors in the warmth of the families, familial abuse is often pushed under the rug in the name of family honor. In desi families, male to female violence is as common as else where in the world but what makes VAW in desi homes unique is the involvement of women in perpetrating violence against women. There is ample of documentation of women abetting dowry murders and launching psychological warfare against bahus. But why do women abet VAW?

The answer to this malady rests in the nature of desi household. Desi households are patriarchal (male oriented and dominated), partilocal (on marriage woman goes to live with husband’s kin) and patronymic (woman and her children take on man’s name thereafter, belong to his lineage). In patriarchal societies, women derive status through their association with men in family and marriage. A woman’s social status is dependent on her male kin, whose daughter is she, whose sister she is, who is her husband or who is her son and so on. To expand it further, her social status is related to that of her male kin; if her father or brother are a wealthy then she is considered wealthy. Even though she does not own that wealth but her association with the wealth owner bestows her preferential treatment and higher social status. There is a premium placed on the social and economic status of families in negotiating matrimonial alliances. The qualifications of a bride are reduced to her physical assets that are impermanent in nature like her beauty; fair complexion etc. whereas, a groom essentially has to be able to provide for his family and if not so then his kin should be able to provide that security. At the same time it is understood the bride’s family will help her husband and his kin in the time of economic need. Thus marriage appears to be a site of economic exchange where value of women is dependent on the men they are related to. The question still remains unanswered why women abet VAW. For that we need to go little further.

After marriage when a woman moves into the new household there are already other women there, she has to establish her self. Some women (MIL and SIL) are her spouse’s blood relatives thus have more history and authority in the household and other women like her are brought into the family through marriage (wives of other brothers in the family, called bahus or co-sisters). The status of these bahus is stratified according to the birth order of their spouses. The elder brother’s wife has more say than the middle or younger brother’s wife. This hierarchy is not static there is always a tug of war as the status of brothers is again not limited to their birth order. It depends on how able each brother is physically, professionally successful, charming, has good relationship with his parents and siblings etc. There after a woman’s status further depends on the nature of her conjugal bliss. If she has a good relationship with her husband and he respects her then she is considered good on the other hand, if her marriage is bad her status is immediately threatened (some natal families do not want to be associate with the daughter who has a bad marriage; she is discriminate against her sisters who have successful marriages). Beyond this is another part to this equation the social-economic standing of natal family of each co-sister that determines her status in the sasural (marital home). Hence it is imperative for women in order to establish themselves in the marital home they have to dislodge the conjugal harmony of the other co-sister(s). We have already discussed motivations of MIL and SIL in this dislodging project in the previous posts.

Competition between the co-sisters is not based on their personal worth but on that of their relationship with men in their lives. Even though motherhood is celebrated in desi cultures; mothering of son is treated preferentially. Thus desi households constitute the site for struggle for resources and power. Resources being respect and establishment in the family and power constitute ability to control personal life and lives of others. The ranking of DILs based on age, motherhood and attributes of spouse and natal family keeps women divided. The incoming women not only have to compete against the women already there (MIL and SIL) they also have to rub shoulders with those who are possibly their cohorts. This differential access to power and resources leads to redivision of household labor among the women and exacerbate the antagonism between them and embeds them in an oppressive system where they do not question lack of their personal worth and privileging of their dependence on male kin.

This competition is systemically designed within the desi households and is culturally supported. There are folk songs* sung at weddings that describe the meanness of other women in the conjugal family. It is a kind of anticipatory socialization of the bride to be, preparing her for a war to secure her foothold in the household. These songs narrate how MIL, SILs and co-sisters are always scheming to dislodge the new bride and disrupt her marital harmony. Another culturally supported means of this dislodging project is through the range of joking and respect avoidance relationship between the DILs and brothers-in-law. The husband’s younger brother has a joking relationship with his elder brothers’ wives. He is assumed to be like her brother who provides her with comic relief and support in the hostile household (sexual overtures are possible). At the same time younger brother’s wife has respect avoidance relationship with his elder brother. This not only channels the competition between co-sisters but also set limits on sexual propensity between the opposite sexes (there are always exceptions depending on the economic status and physical prowess of each male member). With this frame of reference if we analyses the question why women abet VAW within homes a clear picture emerges that lack of personal worth or worth just based on physical attributes keeps women looking for means to find worth through their association with men. The desi bahus in desi households are like gladiators, slaves raised to hurt other slaves for the amusement of patriarchy and patriarchal interests. Similar behaviors percolate beyond the walls of homes when women see their self-worth only through others.

Like the search engine term said “why are desi girls so mean to each other,” the answer is as simple; they do not know their self-worth. For some the self-worth is invested in material possessions and for others it is in the possession of relationships, pricy commodity could be prospective boy friend or husband. These people have learned the only way to feel worthy is through manipulating and belittling others to quell the competition. It is a pity how some people in order to feel good about themselves invest so much time and effort in manipulating and making others feel bad. It is just like the puzzle about two equal lines- without using a marker how you can elongate one line. Answer is, to make one line longer partially erase one of the lines. Unless people realize their self-worth for who they are beyond their relationships and material possessions they’ll keep wasting themselves in these petty personal politics and miss out on the wonder of human existence. If you are a person who is feeling bad for what another person is doing or saying to you, please know that you have to value your self and know you worth. Your self-worth lies in you alone and your relationship with your creator/universe. If you know what they are saying is not true then you do not have to bother your self because that is not who you are. Define yourself don’t let people define you. Try using my formula

 “If you are not paying my rent or my bills then what you think about me does not matter.” Try it, it works.  

 

*एक सुख देखा मैंन मैया के राज में,                          I saw peace in my mother’s reign,
सखियों के संग अपने, गुडिओं का मेरा खेलना            Playing with my friends and dolls
एक सुख देखा मैने भाभी के राज में,                           I saw peace in my SIL’s reign,            (brother’s wife)  
गोद में भतीजा रे, गलिओं में मेरा घूमना                     Nephew in the lap, my strolling in the streets
एक दुख देखा मैने सासू के राज में,                             I saw pain in my MIL’s reign,
आधी आधी रतियाँ रे चक्की का मेरा पीसना               I grinding mill until midnight          
एक दुख देखा मैंने जीतहाणी के राज में,                      I saw a pain in my elder co-sister’s reign       
आधी आधी रतियाँ रे चूहले का मेरा फूँकना                 I blowing smoke of the earthen stove

courtesy: http://manishkmr.blogspot.com/2008/07/folk-songs-of-uttar-pradesh-listen-to.html

Facing Communication Deadlock

4 Jan

ughhh…..this is so frustrating…..why do I keep on finding myself being upset at one thing or another….next thing you know, both of us are upset and then there is no talking for the day. I feel as if I don’t remember what bliss is, or what happiness means. Why do I keep on finding myself in this rut?? I try to be patient, I try to put myself in other people’s shoes to see how they may be looking at an issue, and yet over and over again, I keep on finding myself at the place I began…and still feeling lost. I wish life weren’t so miserable.

-Khamoshi

“You don’t understand me.”

“We have nothing to talk about.”

“I try talking to him and he just shuts me out. How can I make him talk?”

“This conversation is over.”

Anyone could sense there is a communication problem here and most common suggestion is keep the communication channels open, don’t be judgmental and accusatory, have patience on and on… We all have tried communicating with our partners or dear ones and have felt at some point or another the communication is not going through and we are stuck in a rut.

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