What is Desi Sex?
This blog (GGTS) gets an average of 80-90 hits a day. One good day it received 120 hits and Desi Girl was pretty rejoyced. Out of curiosity she looked up the search engine terms people used to find GGTS. Her curiosity to know how people found her blog just killed the cat. Rest was taken care of by spams from Viagra, Cialis, other ED medications and penile extension websites, all posted on this and this page. (… and Freud said something about penis envy. DG is aware of western homophobia even though desi masculinities are eqaully insecure but there is less homophobia. Read Holi in Banaras and the Mahaland of Modernity by Lawrence Cohen); In a phallus centric desi culture one can sell snake oil in the name of male sexual prowess (search desi viagra on youtube, it is a common scene across the country) and sand to women to lighten the complexion. Desi Girl is dumbfounded what part of GGTS screams sex and perversion. Women’s sexuality is definitely obsession of all patriarchal institutions be it society, community, family, marriage, religion, polity or education. Each defines women’s sexuality through male gaze for the aggrandizement of male egos by ownership of women associated to them through marriage and family (need not be just consanguine or conjugal but even imagined kinship); our women = pure women, their women= impure and wanton women. Be it colonial nationalist elite discourses hypersexualizing European women or lower caste women or be it Hindu fundamentalist discourses on Muslim women (there are simultaneous and binary discourses on hypersexualized men and victimized women in need of rescue and hypersexualized women in need of taming). Each patriarchal institution corroborates the other to maintain this stance of male honor through control of women bodies and sexuality. When ever a woman asserts right to her body and sexuality she immediately becomes immoral (read prostitute, vibhiyacharini). It is interesting to note when men define woman, women and femininity be it erotic poets of middle ages or Vātsyāyan penning Kamasutra all becomes classical literature where as if women define themselves their needs and sexuality they become whores, a threat to social order and literature.
Search Engine Terms
These are terms people used to find your blog.
| desi sex | 9 |
| desi girl | 7 |
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Still wondering if there is something called Desi Sex and if yes then who gets to define it. Why aren’t there search terms like desi men sex, desi sex man.com etc 🙂 .
The only golden lining to this gloomy cloud is that there are serious readers who motivate Desi Girl to research and bring forth important information. Desi Girl sincerely thanks all her readers, comment writers and chat pals.
Peace,
Desi Girl
A Desi Girl's Guide to Relationship Survival 
As much as I hate it, did you know, that the law especially Indian HMA defines the wife as property of the husband!!! How objectifying is that? It’s like someone OWNES you. Is that not in itself breeding a twisted, archaic thought process and allowing it to fester.
Even weirder is the fact that physical violence in India is not seen as a big deal by the law (directly experience at the hands of lawyers etc.,). Are we as a culture more interested in preserving rubbish traditions as opposed to becoming a more humane society? And if yes, why?
Most potently, why does it make me or any other woman like me “westernized” to think that partnership bodes equality, not ownership.
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Diverting from the issue, I would love to know your opinion of why there is recent upsurge about “item numbers” read “item girls” in bollywood movies and TV shows.
Is it the men in general exploiting the “poor girls in need” or the girls exploiting men?
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Looking at the list of searched words, one doea notice that “Desi” and “sex” rank quite hig up in the list :)….I had written about some top searched words in the post “Top Searched Words On The Internet” here-
http://wizardspost.com/?p=329
Interesting to note that sex, penis, dog, pussy, etc figure higher than Jesus…. the list doesn’t even list the name of any other God….
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// It is interesting to note when men define woman, women and femininity be it erotic poets of middle ages or Vātsyāyan penning Kamasutra all becomes classical literature where as if women define themselves their needs and sexuality they become whores, a threat to social order and literature. //
Never noticed this till now, but it’s true.
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On that context, goddess worship is also a form of oppression. Whenever the discussion of how women are treated in India, a commong quip it, “Women are revered as goddesses in our country, what more do you want?”
When it is not that women are reverred as goddesses, but women are expected to subscribe to the superhuman standards of goddresses. It is like expecting a Harish Chandra of every man, which ultimately is oppressive.
Agree.
DG
A similar form of oppression is preached in Islam as well. For example, Ayesha and Fatima were held up as model women, but read their biographies and it isn’t difficult to figure out just how oppressed and resentful they were, under Muhammad’s dominion. But again, classic Islam never taught people to criticise their religion or introspect deep into people’s state of mind in literature.
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Although I generally would like to agree with your points but I feel these views are at least 30 years behind time.
Things ARE changing, women are more assertive, men more sharing and society more open.
And when it comes to controlling women, It has always been another woman who tries more to control ( in form of mother, mother in law, sister in law, etc etc ).
In a skewed manner, I would even go to the extent of saying that when it comes to neighbors, it is the neighbors wife or the mother who would keeps an eye on what a girl is doing, or who comes to drop, or what she is wearing!
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Lady DG,
You are already being anonymous in this blog. Then why having ‘comment moderation’? Are you not interested in people leaving their own opinions without your assent? If you have fear about spams, you should have your captcha activated.
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well well.. now that you have posted it, you have got a valid post that talks about ‘desi sex’.
Congratulations!
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Well, true, when a woman talks of sexuality, it becomes filthy or sometimes is taken as a spicy dish. As if there can be nothing serious about it.
The search result shows, how people perceive the writings or blogs which talks openly about the serious issues of a relationship between a man and a woman.
Desi girl, don’t bother about this stuff, it will always be there. You write such informative stuff, with so much effort. I think more and more young people should read it.
Take Care!
RESTLESS
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This reminds me of the one time my blog piece wqas called Virginity and Ambition (it was my reaction to a film poster that said ambitious girl always loses virginity, may answer to that the unambitious one gets married earlier and loses it sooner 😉 ) Anyways since that day I have been spammed by Chinese magic pill sellers who comment on every blog post of mine. Its only after I used google translator did I understand these were popular search terms in Mandarin. But why Mandarin attack me for God’s sake. It took me a while to correlate it to that particular piece.
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How do you check this search engine thing, I shud check it out myself .. how people come to mine .. hmmm weird i must say but I like the question you asked .. waiting for the answer from someone …
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always used to see ur G Buzz discussions with yayaver. today finally I came to ur blog. found funny, thought provoking and interesting as well as relevant. Would love to come often to ur blog.
And yeah I love one thing, you know what…?
i.e. Peace
Desi Girl
spreading peace…
peace
anjaan rahgir
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‘ve already joined u in G buzz…
‘ll share the message of hope…
peace.
anjaan rahgir
(borrowed from you)
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Desi Girl,
I saw this on NBC the other day about how this educated college professor had his black daughter in law killed for shame.
Considering his sons look black, and he is considered “colored” It is the weirdest and crulest form of racism I have seen. Which brings me the the question again, how racists are indians? and what is this obessesion with getting married “in the community”?
http://www.wsbtv.com/news/16708420/detail.html
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on a side note, what is desi river bath? No wait..dont tell me.I dont even want to know..Peace
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I think Desi river bath is a Bollywood scene, where a village gori (girl) is going to fill water, wash clothes and bathe in the village river, and like in Sangam, the hero is singing ‘Bol Radha bol Sangam hoga ke naheen?”
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Oh Bother..LOL….This sounds like Indian men are so repressed.
I was intrigued by the stories of your indian mother in laws.
It was an interesting and eye opening read and a reminder to self as to what not to do to smother my little toddler as he grows.
This weekend I was badgered by questions as to what was I?
an indian american? a cathlolic or a muslim? born to a muslim mother and a catholic father, married to a white american and I happen to be asked the most personal questions by desis, very offensive and annoying.
Everyone from my garage attendent had a claim as to what I should be.
Garage attendent tells me “you are a good person, you should think about becoming muslim”. Really? I hate any kind of bible/book thunping on my face..really, Religion is a very personal issue and is when I am having my next child etc..Desis should have a course on social etiquette, because obvioulsy education doesnt translate into social sensibilties.
While my husband was spared the questions due to him being american I had a hard time dodging questions as to “how much I made” how long I was married and why I had my son so late, to what not..I guess being brown skinned meant, it was open season on me? WTF?
sigh!! atleast the food was great..
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Dear V,
You are a class apart so don’t you bother about all these….. It is a pitiful and depressing fact but what to do? The mentality is such.
You just carry on with the wonderful work that you are doing.
Best Always,
Shail
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hi
don’t just let the perverts disturb u.
you have your own fan following and people like me who are addicted to your blog will read it any ways
and talking about all those spam msges. can you imagine even i get them despite of the fact that mine is such a plain, simple blog
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Oh wow. How very disturbing. What was your reaction when you pulled this information? I’m looking at this and thinking that at least 90% of the searches are from people (probably men) looking for porn on the internet. And “desi sex”? Wow, people are very specific in what they want to see I guess.
The last sentence in your blog before the search engine terms is a very interesting and important point. For probably thousands of years men and women’s sexuality has been viewed unequally. Men can be as promiscuous as they want and thats looked upon as their right of passage to being a man. Women are viewed simply as mothers and caregivers and any sexual freedom is considered a defilement. Not sure the world will ever change on that issue.
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I’ve been getting search hits from indian guy and white girl and free indian pron lately…
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I did, I added some mint to it to, very delicious. I also found some amazing uses for raw kale…
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Atleast people seeking for knowledge on sex will read something good. 🙂
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A lone and loser has only bitterness in the world of love. That is why, I don’t dwell at such happy places. Ciao…
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I am amid so much of confusion that can’t be put up here. Contact me personally if wanna hear and solve my problems.. Thanks for sending joy and peace to me DG.
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DG I agree with Yayaver, some of them might stop out of curiosity and might read this blog. I hope they do.
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wow…hey do add the place from where most people had viewed or searched for the blog, if its kinda possible…and d most weird was “desi river bath”..
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Thanks for your advice…Hopefully you could get more results.
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Maybe I should check my search engine words too. 😛
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